All The Single Ladies Apparently Don’t Have Facebook

Kate Bolick’s article “All the Single Ladies” in the November 2011 issue of The Atlantic explores various cultural and economical shifts, which have led to an increasing percentage of American women choosing to marry later or not at all. According to Bolick’s research, only 22% of 18-29 year olds in America today are married. The Census Bureau reports that among educated white women the median marriage age is higher than the national average of 26.

So why then I wondered, as a white girl with a college degree, is my Facebook always cluttered with pictures of people’s weddings and babies?

Based on Bolick’s statistics, babies, diamond rings and potty-training woes should take up less than a quarter of my news feed. But there are days when all I see are tiny humans on my social media. (Side note: Someone should really look into conducting a study on the correlation between potty-training/lactation statuses and being defriended.).

Are my single friends simply less social media vocal about their singledom?

A single girl or guy might not feel an evening out catching the latest Twilight flick to be worthy of announcing to the world. But a child learning to walk is qualitatively more newsworthy.

As Bolick discusses in her article, singles are typically better connected to family and friends. Married couples are more of a nucleus; busy with the lives they have created together. But Bolick neglects to examine the role social media is playing to change this gap. A married person busy with work and kids might not always have the time to connect by phone or email. Tools like Facebook provide a way to keep up with others outside the nucleus with ease and simplicity. Perhaps the village isn’t helping raise the child anymore, but the virtual village is helping keep mom and dad from losing their mind.

The 2010 Census found that 44% of Generation Y (or the Millennial Generation if you prefer a generation sound like a Backstreet Boy album) view marriage as becoming obsolete. Well, perhaps marriage is becoming obsolete, but splitting the monthly rent—never.

Let us know in the comments your own thoughts on Bolick’s article.

– A Really Does Like Seeing Your Kid’s Baby Pictures, I Promise, Lindsay

About Lindsay Golder

Freelance writer, book-fiend, lover of shamefully bad films regularly featured on TBS or TNT.

One Response to “All The Single Ladies Apparently Don’t Have Facebook”

  1. Hey thanks for this article, quite an interesting read. Are you going write a follow-up for it? I’ll be sure to check it out if it happens.!

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